HELL NO
If there is one thing that really bugs me it's people who think the world revolves around them. Who make it out like their problem is worse than yours or that their problems are more important than yours. People who think that the topic of conversation has to be about them. The humans who think only for their best interests and not the persons who they are hurting.
I had a conversation the other night with someone who I really didn't think I would be having the convo with but I did and it made me realise how shitty one person has been to me due to his selfishness. It opened my eyes to people around me and how they are treating me and how maybe I am being to certain people. So I text a friend a need, I read more 'small' blogs and supported some of them, I cleaned up after my dad who had probably made a gross sandwich that consisted of marmite, peanut butter, salad cream and beetroot and I decided to write this blog. I think sometimes we lose sight of what is important and get wrapped up in our own worlds that we forget about what else is going on and there is nothing wrong with that as long as we get back on track and realise our lives are not the only lives that matter.
With my job taking up a lot of my life and a heartbreak I have been distracted to say the least and it is something I am desperate to change. My job is something I can't do much about it because it really is a step in the right direction for me but the heartbreak is something that makes my life decisions for me and nope I'm not about it. I'm angry more than I am upset just because of all that happened and so in my head I am just fully like 'fuck all boys I hate you I hate you I hate you' when really I should just be going with the flow. I'm sure if you have had a girl/boy hurt you in ways you didn't know you could be hurt then you will have that mindset for a bit and I don't know if it is just me but do you just fully hate the idea of putting yourself in the position to possibly be hurt again? If any thing it has taught me that I want to be alone for a while and not commit to something that isn't me and that is when being selfish is okay just don't knock anyone down in the process that doesn't deserve it.
Everyone has to be selfish at times because you can't live a happy life if you're doing everything to please everyone else. If you need to do something for you or your future then your friends and family should understand and stick by you no matter what but do not take that for granted and forget relationships are a two way thing. If a friend needs you be there. If a family member needs you be there. I'm sure on the flip side they will be there for you in your time of need too. I don't really know what the rights and wrongs are here but if it feels like you're hurting someone then that is probably when being selfish isn't the best thing to do.
I've grown up with two very selfless parents who show me everyday how dedicated they are to making everyone else happy. They run motorsport/drifting events pretty much every weekend and then work during the week. Although they live and breathe cars what they do every weekend isn't for them, it is for everyone else. They love what they do because they love to bring people together to do something they love for a really cheap price that no where else can offer them. They don't run the events for a profit or to get any recognition they do it so the people who love to drift can do exactly that without having to get a loan out. That's what makes me most proud. They do not do it for money they do it to simply make hundreds of people happy and it really shows. However when you run big events some people are bound to be shitty and they have defo experienced that a few times to say the least. That's when being selfless has it's flaws and you just can't help it. You can not please everyone but my parents are lucky enough to be so incredibly loved by so many people that one tiny negative post on facebook (that is totally uncalled for) can have hundreds of replies back (in simply terms) saying 'shut up'. I aspire to be like them everyday.
So if you think that being selfish more times than often is the right thing then maybe we are not the most likely of people to get on and although I admire your self love I think you probably need to take a step back and see theres more to life than just you. Sorry not sorry but being a kind, thoughtful and considerate person is so much better than being a selfish, rude and ignorant one. Text that girl back whose heart you broke and say sorry, Tell your friend you love them and will always be there no matter what and put yourself first sometimes. Chose your path... I'm sticking with mine.
Soph x
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