What I've Learnt Over 19 Years

IT'S MY BIRTHDAY 

I want to start this blog by saying how bloody grateful I am that I get to spend my day of birth with so many amazing people who I wouldn't be me without. I want to share a few of the most important things I have learnt over my 19 short years and I hope you will enjoy. 

The first thing I have learnt is that you need to take everyday as they come because you never know what will happen tomorrow and you really never know how much time you have left with people. Never take what you have for granted because sadly in this world there will always be someone a lot more worse off. 

I've learnt to not let boys dictate my life, I think it is fair to say I am a pretty free soul and I'm only serious when I need to be so having someone in your life that isn't letting you be you or that is constantly upsetting you then let him go. I'm quite lucky that this has only really happened to me once and it was only for about a month of my life but oh my god never again will I let someone treat me as badly as I was no matter how much I want to be with them. But also don't think you have to stay in a relationship if they're doing absolutely nothing wrong but the spark is gone. I'm lucky a few of my ex boyfriends can still see me as a friend because I wouldn't ever want to lose a person I've had a strong bond with and being in a relationship is a personal and intimate experience which you want to be sure you haven't wasted the time you have spent on them but know when the end is the end (made sense in my head). 

I have learnt how to forgive and forget. Nobody is perfect and I know that so when someone has done something you don't think is necessarily right don't hold a grudge. People do not go out of their way to hurt your feelings and if they do then they clearly are NOT the people you need in your life. My friends and family show me so much love and yes at times things upset me but I then remember that I've probably unintentionally upset them too and that is okay because everyone can make mistakes BUT I know that they will never leave me and I will never leave them. You have to sit and think could I really live without you? And most of the time I say HELL TO THE NO. 

Being able to count your friends on one hand is not a bad thing. I say it all the time but people come and go and like I just said it's the people that you can't bare to be without that are worth the tears, the laughter and the memories. I never really felt part of something growing up and then when I moved to Cambridge not only was I surrounded by the most loving and caring family members (also you tanya and rob) I began to make a real circle of friends. I have a few friends down south and I love them to the moon and back but Cambridge has opened doors for me I never even thought were there. My little circle of very close friends make me laugh, carefree and most importantly HAPPY in the place I thought I would never find any of those things. 

The last thing I've learnt in the 19 years of my existence is that your hard work will pay off. Never in a million years did I think I would have being a VM for a huge fashion high street store, Experience at both fashion week and top model events, Charity work and loads more on my CV but I do and I owe that all to myself. There was many a time I was ready to give it all up and not bother but I'm so determined and to not only live a successful and happy life but I also want to pay back my family for everything they have done for me whether that be in support or of them just being so proud to call me a Foskett. My family are the reason I keep going because although I've had a huge person in my life disown me the important people have always stuck by me and supported me no matter what I've chosen to do with my life. 

SO there are some of the important things I've learnt over my 19 years and I know there are a lot more things to learn but for now I've learnt to respect myself, the ones I love and to treasure every moment because you're only young once and now it's the prime time to live my life to the most crazy and the most fabulous it can be. 

Soph X