How To Keep Your Relationship Alive

GOOD OLD DATE NIGHT

Relationships can be soooo hard or they can be super easy and lucky for me mine is pretty good damn normal. We rarely argue (pretty much always in my car when he says he knows where he's going and I made the mistake of believing him and in his sense of direction), we get on really well with each others families, we spend just as much time with our own pals and most of all we laugh at mostly everything but that's not to say we have to stop trying to make good quality time with each other. 

  People can get bored very easy and also people can get lonely very easily so there's nothing better than having your other half surprise you with a nice gesture once in a while or offer to take YOU out for dinner after a long hard day at work. A relationship is built solely on two people and how much time and effort they put into one another so here's a few things I've learnt about how to keep your relationship alive:

1. Start watching a weekly TV programme together. If you're anything like me you can binge watch any tv series in a night so you need to find a tv show that comes out weekly and dedicate one evening a week with your lover to watch it. Me and Noah are a little obsessed with Riverdale on Netflix and it's fair to say we can usually end up talking about it for a few hours just because there's so much going on and there are so many different theories to think about. Having this one night a week means you can chill out with a cuppa, have a cheeky snuggle and watch something and know that at the end of it you can chat to another person about it because I don't know about you but waiting for someone to watch something so you can have a good old natter is the WORST. 

2. Going on spontaneous trips to pretty places. Travelling to new places and being able to explore can be sooooo much fun but what makes that even better is doing it with someone you love. I'm always on the hunt to go somewhere new and I'm up for going pretty much anywhere and lucky for me so is Noah. From the start of our relationship we randomly ditched what we were meant to do and ended up going someone completely different and it's SO exciting. There's so many places to explore and sometimes you really don't have to go far and the rush you can get from going somewhere out of your comfort zone that is home is unbeatable. Just try it it will be worth it. 

 

3. It's the little things that count. There's nothing I love more than giving or receiving (not going to lie to you am I) things out of the blue. Buy her that pack of crisps she likes or that cactus shaped money box he wants. Listening to the person you are with is the most important part of any relationship so being able to show that you heard him droning on for three hours about that hair wax he wanted is a blessing for him but also for you. I'm a sucker for writing little notes or just simply washing his clothes he 'accidentally' left on your bathroom floor because to me the little tiny inexpensive things are the most memorable... unless he wants to buy me an Aston Martin of course.

4. Take time apart from one another. Don't get me wrong I live to spend nights cuddled up watching crap tv or waking up to a cup of tea made for me but I also live to go out for cocktails with the girls and getting a domino's in with some of the fam and that's why to me it's important to not smother each other. Noah and I spend max three nights a week with each other, probably one full day (if work lets us) and will go for the odd coffee and it's so nice because we have so much to chat about when we finally see each other. I'm sure if our work lives were more similar and we lived a bit closer we would spend more time with each other but we get the perfect balance of time together, time with other people and time to ourselves. Friendships and family are very important and although Noah is my best friend we respect that we also have other people we couldn't be us without. Don't forgot to give yourself that bit of TLC it needs but also don't neglect other people because relationships with family and friends is what makes the world go round and that smile a little bigger. 

So I hope this was kind of interesting and a bit helpful and if not oh well I know Noah will enjoy this read. Goodbye my lover(If you didn't sing that in a James Blunt voice then we can't be friends). 

Soph x